Let not your tongue work faster than your mind

“Anger is the only thing you should put off until tomorrow. Stop and think before you speak, your words cut deeper than a sword ever will”

From personal experience, anger is a vice which plunges deeper than any other emotion in many of us. There are very few people who know how to manage their anger in a “proper” manner while the rest of us end up burning bridges and/or hurt our loved ones due to anger.

Anger is a strong feeling of annoyance, displeasure or hostility towards something or someone. Situations arise which trigger anger and for most of us, we react in certain ways, which lead to regret in the long run. As the writer writes: “Speak when you’re angry and you will make the best speech, you will ever regret” 

I can attest to the fact that, reactions based on anger has only created enemity, between myself and some of the people i love, and if you examine the root of the issue, it’s often something minor, but a short temper made it a major issue.
We let emotions such as anger overpower us, which leads to us building a wall of defense towards everyone who shows the slightest opposition towards what we say or do. We are always ready to “fight” back and ready to take each point of correction as negative. We never listen to understand but we listen to reply and defend ourselves. That’s the biggest problem most of us face in families, relationships, workplaces and friendships.

With anger, comes ego, pride and an “unteachable spirit”. With ego, one never wants to seem as the weak one, one never wants to let go but absolutely wants to have the last say! With pride, one never has the word “sorry” in their mouth and as a result an “unteachable spirit” develops. One can never be corrected, thus never learns. Beware of such people because a person that never learns is a person who is on a status quo, never moving forward, thus never gets wiser. It’s not a joke that such are considered fools, since they constantly feel the need to raise their voices but never their argument.

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I know for most of us reading, we may have noticed certain traits of anger in us, and even tried to stop, pray, meditate, and all other remedies however it seems not to work. However, have you tried not saying anything whenever you feel someone has offended you? I don’t mean the silent treatment kind of silence but the humility kind of silence. It’s not every time and to every situation that you should respond and prove that you’re right (even if you are). Have you tried letting go of a situation rather than seeking vengeance or “tit for tat”? Try it…I can promise you it will work. No matter how much you feel the need to reply to that insult, to that person who “stepped on your toes”, stay quiet. You are not dumb for that. In Fact you are the bigger person.

Always keep in mind that, nothing you say/do, and no decision you make while you’re angry is ever sound. Thus keep calm and control yourself. Do not set limitations to your progress or even your blessings because of other people or tough situations. As a matter of fact, don’t ever let anyone or any situation have that much power over you, to trigger such vice in you.

Keep calm and Be at peace. Keep reading, keep sharing and keep commenting.

From us, with love,
RespondingToLife.

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8 comments

  1. Hello guys, anger is one of the vices that led to the misunderstanding of human kind since the beginning of time.This is mainly brought about by various factors which mainly is the misunderstanding of issues among us human and leads to conflict.We should by all means understand , what angers us so quickly and keep away from it at all cost that’s the first step to avoid being angry.If it doesn’t work then it get to compose yourself to tackle the problem this is by listening and quick analysis of the situation.This help the opponent to rethink of his or her action and 60% this helps in anger management.Anger management is a program that is there for persons who cannot manage there anger problem and thus the last solution I’ll ask any one to follow if the two and more steps don’t work.Keep calm and your surroundings will be as calm.There so much more on anger that the blog has stated and keep blogging this may help someone out there.
    Regards to
    Respondingtolife

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  2. Anger 😡😡! the very monster that terrorizes every good relationship, unity, and love. Lets learn to postpone it 🤐🤐!! to tomorrow. Its one of the elements that gives ugly 👹👹!! results.

    A great article.

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  3. Truelly eye opening. Not once, twice or thrice have we gotten angry. Most of us have all sorts of unimaginable imaginations during anger, that if a video of what is going on in the mind was to be recorded, one would be really shocked. It is therefore important to learn how to control anger and master it before it masters you. “Everyone is allowed to be angry, but do not sin in your anger.” Therefore we should all be wise and allow wisdom to take its course in guiding us on how to manage anger.

    Thank you. God bless you and Responding To Life.

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